I’m warning you, some of you will not like what I am about to say. I’m bracing myself for potential backlash, but I just can’t bite my tongue on this anymore. I wrote the following on my personal Facebook page yesterday because I was so annoyed with hearing just how horrible some people are with their personal choices in life:
Today Show anchor Jenna Wolfe and her partner had a baby girl the other day. The rude, close-minded comments on the FB picture are insane. Here’s a bombshell: gay marriage and same sex parenting is no big deal to teenagers anymore. In the small town conservative district where I teach, no students bully those who have same sex parents. It’s NO BIG DEAL. Would our older generation please stop making it a big deal? You can unfriend me now if you don’t agree…
Let me just lay it out there–I see it EVERYDAY. I see how the world is changing. The reason I see this is because I work with 100 teenagers over the course of seven hours. I interact with many more as my little high school has approximately 400 students and my classroom is located near the main stairwell and I am the queen of high fiving those kids in the hall. I high five any and every kid that walks by my room. I overhear conversations in my classroom, near the lockers, in the hallway, in the bathroom. I am like the janitor in The Breakfast Club when he says, “I am the eyes and ears of this institution.” And let me tell you, America, or the five of you who are actually reading this: 98% of these kids could care less about same sex marriage, same sex parenting, same sex anything. We have kids in our school with gay moms, gay dads, gay brothers, and gay sisters. And we are not a progressive, liberal, big city school. We are a small town, hardworking, blue collar, dairy farming, tractor riding, amazing school. And most kids here don’t care if you’re gay. You want to know why? Because it’s 2013 and it’s (brace yourselves) the new normal. Gasp!
It’s. The. New. Normal.
Now, I know there is the whole, “But the Bible says!” argument and the Jesus crusaders are probably clenching their fists and sighing in sadness for my soul, but just listen. Please.
In addition to observing that high school kids don’t care about same sex anything, I also observe the sadness that it shitty parenting. And there are some really shitty parents out there in every town, in every state. Parents who drink too much, neglect too much, hit too much, smoke too much, yell too much, leave too much. Parents who have checked out and left their kids to raise themselves. Parents who have set a sad example of what a family is, what success is, and what happiness is. But guess what? These parents are straight. Does this make them better? Does this make up for the fact that their child is hungry and dirty and can’t concentrate in school? Does this cancel out the disservice they have done to their child by not showing up to open houses and not making sure that their kid passes so he can be better than what he’s been living with?
If you are going to try to sell me on the fact that lowlife Z is setting a better example than a same sex couple who is actively involved in their child’s life then I’m not buying it. I’m not. I get that the Bible says it’s a sin. But I’m pretty sure if Jesus showed up and decided to get his disciples together to rewrite the Bible, he’d throw a little tidbit about deadbeat parents in there: Thou shall not choose meth, vodka, prescription meds, and shitty beer over their child.
The whole argument is just so disproportionate to what is really important which is how good of a human being are you? Are you compassionate? Are you loving? Are you forgiving? Are you empathetic? Are you genuine? Are you honest? Are you trustworthy?
Are you gay? Who cares.
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